The Feral Truth About Feeling Invisible

The Feral Truth:

You can be in the middle of everything…and still feel completely invisible.

You’re there for all of it.

The appointments.

The conversations.

The decisions.

The moments that matter.

You hear everything.

You track everything.

You remember everything.

And somehow…

you’re still not seen.

People walk into the room and go straight to them.Ask how they’re doing.Check in.Offer support.

And they should.

Of course they should.

But you’re standing right there.

Holding the bag.Holding the information.Holding it all together.

And no one asks:

“How are you doing?”

Not really.

Not in a way that leaves space for an honest answer.

Because you’ve become the background.

The support role.The steady one.The one who’s “handling it.”

So people assume you’re fine.

Even when you’re anything but.

And it’s a weird feeling to try to explain.

Because it’s not about needing attention.

It’s about needing acknowledgment.

To be seen as part of this.

Not just the one managing it.

Because this is happening to you too.

In a different way.

But still in a way that changes everything.

Your time.

Your energy.

Your life.

And when no one sees that?

It starts to feel like you don’t exist outside of what you do for someone else.

Like your identity slowly gets replaced with:

caretaker coordinator

the one who knows everything

But not… you.

Not the person who:

• used to have time

• used to have space

• used to exist outside of all of this

And yeah, you keep going.

Because that’s what you do.

But some days?

You just want someone to look at you and say:

“I see you too.”

Not as an afterthought.

Not as an extension of them.

As you.

Because you’re still in there.

Even if it doesn’t feel like it lately.

That’s the Feral Truth.

Your in chaos,

~Kari, The Feral Caregiver